It’s a new year. It’s a time for review. Renewal. And for me, an honest self evaluation of where I’ve taken my life.
Rather than some grandiose plan or vision for how 2018 is going to be the year that I maximize all these things and become super human, I thought I’d start with some real honest talk.
Yesterday I read, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counter-Intuitive Approach to Living a Good Life . In fact, re-read is more accurate. I realized it contained some much needed truth and honesty.
Mark Manson provides some really thought-provoking questions that I finally took stock and evaluated. I realized I’ve gotten it all wrong. My values have been misaligned. My behaviors are not effective to getting me to where I know intuitively I want to be.
Truth be told, it’s not as scary as one might think to actually admit those things. It’s actually harder to avoid them. I know because I’ve spent a lot of time in the last year avoiding the honest assessment of my own goals and behaviors.
So what does it look like to get it all wrong? Well, to start, it’s in admitting that my values have been screwy. When I look at my behaviors and where life is at right now, I’ve valued seeking comfort and pleasure over uncomfortable conversations with myself and others. I’ve valued procrastination to avoid what I fear are going to be difficult conversations. I’ve valued financial security and pursuit of economic gain over a job that is fulfilling and makes my mark on the world. And because I’ve valued those things, I’ve gotten exactly what valuing those things yield. Yet there’s things missing.
So this year, I’ve decided to take to heart the lessons in Discipline Equals Freedom: Field Manual. I’ve decided that my attitude needs adjusting. It’s time to decide to commit to discipline. And it’s time to decide on how to best change my values to those focused on humility, vulnerability, creative expression, and honesty.
This blog this year will focus on some of the things I’m learning along the warpath. It starts with evaluating where I am and focusing on leaning into the work that gets me stronger, more knowledge, and getting it less wrong every day.